All my life, my friendships are long-term. I don't do well with short term friendships, people who are intensely here for a short period, and then are off to a new group of friends.
Why would someone invest so much in a personal relationship and then quickly move on with what seems like not a bother in the world?
My sensitivities to short-term friendships are probably heightened greater than ever as my friendships are long-term, but have come to an end over the last year.
The reason so many friendships have gone likely has everything to do with the changes happening inside of me.
Most people would say that I've changed, that I'm an entirely different person today, but the world is getting to see what is inside of me, what has always been inside of me.
At the same time, I am a different person in several areas. The most important are my relationship with Christ. Each day, I find myself getting closer to turning every part of my life over to Him, and like every other human, find it difficult to give up control of absolutely everything.
I believe that some of my long-term friends are put off by my commitment to Christ, my willingness, and openness to talk about my faith.
We no longer have anything in common, as I have changed my daily activity. We don't go to the same places or do the same things anymore, and it is time to move on.
My friendships are long-term, and I am making new ones right now
That means I am in the process of making new friends, and many of those friendships seem to be coming through short-term relationships, which do not appeal to me. I find myself walking away from people who I would like to be around, but know that they are not the kind of individuals who are there for me when I need them.
Short-term friendships are something that happens in everyone's life, I just don't do well with them, and would rather not have them. The catch is there is no way to know upfront if your new friend is there for a moment, or is someone you will have in your life for the long-term.
Some people enjoy keeping all their relationships short-term. They have the ability to jump from social group to social group without giving any thought to it at all. I would think that this pattern would have many moments of emptiness in between social circles and friendships.
Don’t trust anyone— not your best friend or even your wife! – Micah 7:5
Wow, you just read a line of scripture that does not sound like what you would expect from the Bible. And, I struggled with this for a long time, but if we trust God, we don't have to worry about trusting others. He will show us the way, and give us the right words and actions.
So, soon I will once again have long-term friends in my life, but I have to go through the short-term friends to find the ones that are those who will always be a friend.