Self-pity can consume our life. We feel sorry for ourselves and do not try to make our situations in life better. Some of us are so lost that we don't even know where to start. As Christians, we should not wallow in our self-pity. Of course, we are going to have down days, we all do. What turns a down day into a lifetime of struggles is self-pity.
Have you ever asked yourself, why am I always the one having the bad luck? Why do bad things always happen to me? How come I can't get a break?
What are we doing in our lives to free ourselves from the situations that make us unhappy? One of the best ways to motivate yourself and find encouragement is by reading the Bible. I wish I would have made the Bible my default many years ago. It is a hard way to live your life when you only pray now and then. You never fully develop a relationship with God. You are stopping yourself from harnessing the most fruitful way to live life.
Does self-pity define us?
We all know someone who is struggling with self-pity. Sometimes that person is looking back at us in the mirror. Do we want to be known by our selfishness or our selflessness? When we spend considerable time dwelling about how bad we got it, we miss the big picture. We miss opportunities to be a role model for our children. A support system for our spouse. The neighbor that is always there to help and lend a hand. We do not bear any fruit. Our lives are left empty. We even start to feel sorry for ourselves because our lives are empty.
1 Thessalonians “Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”
James 1:1-27 “James, a servant of God and of the Lord Jesus Christ, To the twelve tribes in the Dispersion: Greetings. Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.”
Have you ever thought that your struggles are God's way of teaching you something? i am not saying that bad things happen to you because God is punishing you and wanting to teach you a lesson. God uses struggles in our life to draw us closer to him. Instead of wallowing in self-pity, bring your problems to God. Trust in his answers even though they may conflict with our desires. You might be surprised that something bad in your life can be turned into good once you get God involved in your struggles.