As a father, it is tough to think about your daughters husband. My daughter is ten years old and growing up fast. It seems like yesterday that we were bringing her home from the hospital. I remember my parents telling me that time will go fast when you have kids. My parents were right about time flying fast. I cannot believe that my daughter is over half way to becoming an adult. As a father, one of the hardest things is thinking about giving your little girl away to another man.
This weekend was my brother's wedding. I watched as my sister-in-law's father gave her away to my brother. That moment hit home for me. As a parent that is one of the happiest times in your life as well as one of the saddest. Since I am quite a few years away from having to do this with my daughter, I thought that it would be a perfect time to lay down some ground rules. I titled this blog, “what I expect from my daughters husband.” I have no idea who God will put in my daughters life or who she will eventually marry. Ultimately the choice is up to her.
Being a father comes with great honor and duty. It is my job to show my daughter what a husband looks like by the example that I show her. How I treat my wife, to how I behave around other people. After doing this for quite a few years, I have developed a list of things that I expect from my daughters husband.
My expectations for my daughters husband.
- My daughters husband must love God first and foremost. Not only say that they love him, but show it through the way they conduct their self.
- He must love my daughter above himself.
- My daughters husband must run his household with an emphasis on God. Everything he does should point back to the word.
- He must pray with my daughter.
- My daughters husband must attend Church. He must understand the importance of surrounding his family with other believers.
- He must not only provide for her physical needs but emotional needs as well.
- My daughters husband must listen to my daughter and be patient with her.
- He must show my daughter the same grace that God has shown us.
- My daughters husband must seek wise council from elders in his life.
- When he becomes a father, he must show my grandchildren what it means to be a Godly man.
Here are some Bible verses that are meaningful to me in regards to the above expectations.
- Matthew 6:33 NASB But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.
- Philippians 2:3 NASB Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves;
- 1 Corinthians 10:31 NASB So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.
- Romans 12:12 NASB rejoicing in hope, persevering in tribulation, devoted to prayer,
- Psalm 150:1 NASB Praise the Lord! Praise God in His sanctuary; Praise Him in His mighty expanse.
- 1 Timothy 5:8 NASB But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
- James 1:19 NASB This you know, my beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger;
- Matthew 5:7 NASB “Blessed are the merciful, for they shall receive mercy.
- Proverbs 15:22 NASB Without consultation, plans are frustrated, But with many counselors they succeed.
- Proverbs 22:6 NASB Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.