Do you think that finding someone who is Christian is sufficiently equally yoked? If so, then why do so many Christians find themselves in divorce? Finding an equally yoked partner requires more effort than saying you are a Christian.

I see the equally yoked partner, also being close to the same place in their relationship with God. If you are a follower, you should find a follower. If you are a fan, you should find a fan.

What happens when a Christian fan marries a follower of Christ? Tension is what happens. The follower commits to living a more Godly life, following Christ in everything we do. The fan comes to church on Sunday, and occasionally participates in an activity, but does not take an active roll when going about their daily business.

God will let you know when you are equally yoked.

My personal belief is that as a single Christian, I need to wait until God makes it clear that there an equally yoked woman available for me. That is, she is as committed as I am to following Christ in all we do.

I've come a long way, learning to trust God, and believe God, letting him guide me in everything I do. He's number one in my life today and for all my remaining days.

So could I find a woman who claims to be Christian and be equally yoked? I don't think so. Frankly, that makes finding someone who is right for me is tough, but I do believe that God will provide the person for me. And, after three divorces, I need him to choose the right person for me.

Find a partner who is equally yoked

Trust God, Believe God. Follow him to find your partner who is equally yoked for you. We're talking about someone who you know will pray for you, not just while courting you, but for life. Sure, they will say they are committed, but don't listen to them, listen to God. He will let you know.

 Nevertheless, each person should live as a believer in whatever situation the Lord has assigned to them, just as God has called them. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches. 1 Corinthians 7:17

Believing in God is different from believing and trusting God. Most Christians are not where they believe and trust God, despite thinking they do. In fact, if you question yourself, you have a problem believing and trusting God. How do you expect to know what is right, and what is not if you aren't listening to what God is telling you?

We have to let God choose for us if we expect to have a godly relationship. Anything else is bound to face challenges and risk an unhappy ending. You will know if you let him guide you. He will tell you if you are equally yoked.