How are we at handling bad decisions made by others?  Do we instantly point out their sin and flaws or do we show them love and kindness?  Sometimes it is hard to handle bad decisions the way that God would want us to handle them.  As humans, our first instinct is to attack.  When I say attack, it can be as subtle as having a negative thought about the other person.  We can even escalate the situation to name calling or judging.  The way that we handle situations presented to us can lead someone to or away from Christ

One thing that I have noticed personally is that the person committing the sin is usually defensive.  They have already prepared themselves for a fight with you.  This person has told themselves over and over again that they are not good enough and could never measure up to you or anyone.  When you are faced with this type of situation, the only thing that will soften the soul is an act of kindness.  It is not the point and time to start throwing out Bible verses.  More than anything this person wants to feel accepted by you.  You can show God more through your actions towards this person than you ever will by beating someone over the head with your Bible.

We all make bad decisions.

Everyone of us is guilty of making bad decisions.  Some of us learn from our mistakes, while others keep fighting the never ending battle.  You have to remember that we are all in this together.  As humans, we measure sin on a scale.  God measures sin as a sin.  When we try to say that one sin is worse than another, we end up being the judge.  It is not our place to judge.  What we can do if we Biblically disagree with someone's actions is be Christ-like.  Show the same love that was shown to us through grace.

Romans 5:3-5 NASB And not only this, but we also exult in our tribulations, knowing that tribulation brings about perseverance; and perseverance, proven character; and proven character, hope; and hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us.

Coming out of the closet.

So I found out today that my cousin now calls herself a lesbian.  Was I shocked?  No, but it is still sad, to say the least.  My cousin's father died in a car accident when she was about eight years old, and she has struggled her entire life to find her place in the world.  I cannot begin to tell you the yo-yo of life that she and her brother have been on.  It is obvious that my aunt is shocked and doesn't know what to do.  Her first reaction will probably be to question why?  Her second step will be to point out in the Bible where my cousin is wrong.

When you take this approach, you end up building walls instead of creating bridges.  I know that my aunt has the best intentions but sometimes intentions have consequences.  My advice for her if she is reading this is to be strong in the Lord.  Continually pray for God's guidance and hand in this situation.  Secondly, continue to show love and understanding.  Not excusing the behavior, but not forcing her away at the same time.  God has a plan like he always does.  Things will work out in his timing like they always do.  I hope for everyone's sake that God will intervene and watch over my family as they work through this struggle.